Effective flattery doesn't praise what someone already knows they're great at — it zeroes in on qualities they're uncertain about. If someone knows they're terrible at basketball, praising their basketball skills rings false. But if they're unsure, a well-placed reassurance lands powerfully. The lesson is to identify the gaps in someone's self-image and fill them with affirmation.
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