The utility/pleasure/virtue gradient isn't just for friendships — it's the same shape across cofounders, mentors, romantic partners, and communities of practice. Virtue-tier cofounders are rare and are the ones whose companies survive the long arc; virtue-tier mentorship actually produces growth while utility-tier mentorship just exchanges favors; the writing groups and D&D tables that last 20+ years are virtue-tier, not pleasure-tier. The pattern is portable: most adult relationships sit in utility/pleasure; virtue-tier is rare everywhere; the people who develop virtue-tier in multiple domains are the ones who get the emergent-system benefits.
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