Mercedes Coffman's MOP framework gives daters three rules to stay grounded during the biochemistry of early attraction: Match effort (don't over-invest when chemistry hits), Observe patterns (wait weeks or months to see real behavior, not potential), and Pace access (don't give physical access early because it triggers dopamine addiction and kills clarity). The framework treats dating like addiction prevention—you stay anchored in reciprocity, watching patterns rather than intensity.
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