Clinical psychologist Shawn T. Smith reframes the silent treatment not as the absence of anger but as its covert expression — withholding benefits rather than inflicting costs. Our cultural norm against overt anger should extend to covert anger too. Pair this with his rule on early red flags: people are on their best behavior in the first months, so any screaming, blame-shifting, or character assault early on is a preview, not an aberration.
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