1:20:31 · Um, when in reality, all of these things are just shortorthhand for a number of behaviors underneath it. They're saying, "I'm a great at basketball and I'm also great at swimming." And you're like, "Whoa, there's so much here." Um, but where it gets difficult is when um you need to stop dribbling and start passing, but you said, "I'm great at basketball, but I'm supposed to do both, but I actually need to change only one of them." And that's where people get into these really hard times. Which is why I think defining everything into the granular and then moving it back up. But being able to go clouds to dirt on these definitions of behavior allow you to change who you are much more fluidly because you you understand that the label is actually just that.
33:20 · What does that mean? So, I'd be like, okay, well, let's break it down. We've got dribbling, passing, shooting. Okay, do that a little bit closer, but they still probably don't know how to. If I say, "Go get better at dribbling, passing, and shooting." Still can't do anything with that until eventually be like, "Okay, passing. So, I want you to take a step with your left foot towards the the person, and I want you to extend your elbows and finish with your thumbs down. Um, and if the ball goes towards them in the direction that they're running, and they catch it, you've passed successfully." And then I would repeat that chain of events until eventually they would understand that that chain of behaviors equals passing.
3:20:36 · And so if you know what you want, which I think is for many people more difficult because it's not knowing what they want, it's deciding all the things they're willing to give up in order to get what they want because what you want is what you're willing to sacrifice for, right? And so if we want multiple things, which one of the things that we still want are we willing to sacrifice for the one that we want more. And I think if you get clear on the thing that you're willing to sacrifice other things for that you're willing to put all those things on the altar to sacrifice for the one thing life gets to our point earlier about simplicity much easier because you have a singular lens to make all decisions through.
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